30 October 2018

How My Life Has Changed in One Year

It's usually a person's completion of another cycle around the sun that initiates self-reflection, whilst for others it's the anniversary of an event- maybe the last day they took a swig of alcohol, the first time they left the house in many years or the first time they tipped out of their comfort zone. Different days stand out for different reasons. The day that recently caused me to turn within and judge how far I've come over the last year was the last Sunday in October, or more specifically, the day we fall backwards by one hour in the UK because of daylight saving time.

I remember where I was exactly one year ago when I first experienced this time-changing phenomena (thanks, Benjamin Franklin). I had been living in the UK for a total of three weeks or so. Everything was new to me- a new currency, new accents to get used to, a new postal code and new people to call friends and places to get used to. My flat mate at the time, Mary, who I've mentioned in a post called 'The Honest Truth About My Move to the UK', invited me to a house party. I'm using the word "invite" now but at the time I felt like I was being dragged out of my room. That party played a large role in determining the next 365 days of my life -only because of the people I met there. If I hadn't met a particular girl who invited me to her house a few days later for a Halloween party, I would have had a very different year from the one I had.

"After basking in the glory that comes with acknowledging my time travelling powers, I hopped off to bed."

Myself, my flatmate and a boy she had once had a fling with whilst at school headed back to our student halls at around 1.30am. By the time we'd walked from the party to the flat, it was 1.50am. After removing my make-up with cotton pads and slipping on my PJs, I went to set an alarm for the next day when I suddenly saw the time spring back to 1am. This had never happened to me before. In my mind, I'd time travelled. I knew the clocks were going backwards-whatever that meant- but in the moment I thought it was magical. After basking in the glory that comes with acknowledging my time travelling powers, I hopped off to bed. Fast forward 365 days later...

'I've joined lacrosse at University which means I've been a part of the team for a whole three weeks. I got a text on Saturday night asking if I'd like to hang out with some of the team at one guy's house the following day. Movies, pizza and a chilled evening in were promised. I'd also been invited to a Halloween house party which was much closer to home but I remembered how the Halloween party went last year and opted to stay the hell away from anything Halloween and house party related. So, a chilled night in with my lacrosse team sounded like a plan.
After catching a bus in the wrong direction for three stops, a friend and I finally arrived at the guy's house. As promised, a chilled night in ensued. We ordered enough Dominos to have food for the 10 people there- and some more for the day after. We watched a comedy (because that's always the safest bet when there are so many people) and ended up playing poker. By "we" I mean the boys. The other two girls and I had no interest in the game and lacked any desire to learn it either. We sipped tea and chatted about everything and nothing. It was a lovely evening.

When the guy hosting us yawned we got the message that it was time to head off. We were heading back into town whilst I'm sure he headed off to bed. This year, instead of being at home when the clocks struck 1am for the second time that day, I found myself in an Uber. Luckily, the driver had the radio on. Have you ever heard how a news bulletin at 1am sounds after having a 1am bulletin one hour before that? It's amusing...but that might just be because I study journalism, but in case you're keen to know, it goes something like this 'And now it's time for the 1am news...again'. I chuckled to myself in the back seat.

"I looked at the time and it hit me- so much has changed in one year."

I eventually arrived home, earlier than when I'd left...which made me feel like a time traveller once again. Like I had done exactly one year before, I removed my make-up, although I remember thinking I had used more cotton pads this time because I'd upped my make-up game drastically in the last year, and instead of setting an alarm for the next day, I looked at the time and it hit me- so much has changed in one year.

The person who dragged me to that party one year ago does not feature in my life in any capacity other than on my Facebook news feed from time to time. The people I met at that party, who played a key part in the next few months which followed aren't involved in my day-to-day routine whatsoever. We haven't spoken in months actually. The people I spent this last weekend with weren't in my life one year ago. I didn't even know they existed one month ago.

It's been a tough year but I've come out the other side and I'm really glad that so much has changed. As each day passed by, I knew things were changing, but as I said, people like anniversaries and the changing over to Daylight Saving Time signifies how I've ousted many people from my inner circle- as tough as that might have been. This past year, I've become stronger and I've began to value myself more. I don't have life figured out and I still have no idea where I'm going to end up- but I'm growing, in age and character, and I'm so proud about both.

A lot happens in a year which gives me so much hope about the year that's to come. Who knows where I'll find myself on the last Sunday of October 2019...but, if you stick around, I'm sure you'll find out.

Is there a seemingly non-important day that's an anniversary for you? What is it and why? 

Till next time-
Steph
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14 comments

  1. I like your perspective on making friends and glad you've adjusted to your move! It's really crazy how things change in a year and I think about it every spring. Good luck on the next year! ♡🍀

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    1. Thanks so much, X! My perspective hasn't always been like this, It's taken a year of conscious effort.
      I like that spring is your time to re-assess and reflect. It is the time for rebirth and freshness.

      Good luck to you too!

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  2. You have a storytelling type of vibe to your writing and it really draws me in! I love your posts(:

    Nikki

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    1. This warms my heart! Thank you SO much, Nikki! I hope I'll create an abundance of stories that you'll come back and read- and love.

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  3. Hi there, Steph! I don't have a non important day anniversary but I know a lot has changed this year and I think everything's keep getting better. i'm so glad to read this one because I know for a fact that you're doing your best to survive in the Uk. To be honest, I know you're doing just great. Love this post so much, dear!

    Mary | http://marychronicles.wordpress.com

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    1. A non-anniversary date! I like that. I'm so glad to hear that the changes in your life have been for the better; that's a year that's headed in the right direction.

      I'm doing more than just survive. I'm living now. Although, I could argue at a stage it was just survival.

      Thank you, Mary! The love and support from you means the world to me!

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  4. I can tell how much you've changed and grown. It's been awesome to follow you on your journey this past year and I'll be sure to stick around for much much longer :)

    x Envy
    Lost in Translation

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    1. Can you pick it up from my writing? It's nice to hear. Thank you, E! You have no idea how much your words mean to me! Thank you for joining me and sharing in on my experiences.

      Steph

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  5. Im such a nostalgic person so I can relate to the sentiment that daily savings time can make someone so reminiscent. haha. I love it.

    Im so proud of you for how much you've grown in the last year. good job, love! I can't wait to hear about the ways you've grown the next time the clocks change. keep growing and changing and loving <3

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    1. Faith! It's so good to hear from you! I'm glad you can relate!

      Haha, I have a whole year till then in which time I'm sure I'll be a different person to the one writing this...and I can't wait to meet her!

      Thank you for all the encouragement!

      Steph

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  6. I kinda wished I had stayed up to watch the clocks go back, any time travel is some kind of time travel ^_^ I hope this next year brings about some great things for you and that in a years time you're happy with everything that happened x

    Sophie x

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    1. Haha, any time travel counts, right!

      I guess time shall tell, S, but I can't wait to see what happens over the next year. So much happens it's crazy. Thanks for the good wishes, as always!

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  7. This year a normal day turned into a future anniversary I know I will cherish forever. I'm very close to my mum, so before every decision becomes real, I have to tell her. June 16th will forever be the day I decided to start therapy and fight my eating disorder. I really hope to see changes next year.

    So proud of you for growing and realising it. Hope you have a wonderful year ahead.

    Sophie xxx | eyesofowls.org

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    1. I love that, Sophie! June 16 sounds like a wonderful date to make important changes.
      I also appreciate how you involve your mom into your decisions. I'm exactly the same.

      Growth is a marvellous thing! I'm glad we're both accepting its naturalness in our lives. GO US!

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