12 October 2017

My Tinder Soulmate Update (the FULL Story)

I bet you thought that there would never be a follow-up to My Tinder Soulmate post. To be honest, I never thought that I would ever write a follow-up post. I guess we were both wrong.
To tell you the truth, I’ve been meaning to type this post up for a while. I haven’t quite known exactly where to start- or how. I think I didn’t want to start. I didn’t want to tell this story largely because I wasn’t sure about the ending. When I wrote the post about My Tinder Soulmate, I wrote the truth- the whole truth up until that point. However, I never quite finished telling you the story. I think I didn’t want the story to end- I didn’t know how the end would present itself.

This may come as a surprise to you all but I re-matched with my Tinder Soulmate, E, two weeks after I wrote and published that original post. I ended up speaking to him nearly every day for the rest of the summer. This is that story. The whole story. With that, I guess the best place to start would be where the other one ended.

After spending nearly two weeks on the beautiful island of Crete, which just so happens to be the place my mom’s family comes from, I re-installed Tinder. I like to think that I got Tinder to satisfy some sort of instant validation that I got when I matched with someone, but the truth is that I got it to find ‘E’ again. Every time I swiped, I hoped that he would pop up once again. At first, he didn’t. But, then he did.

I super liked him.

I remember hesitating before pressing the blue ‘super-like’ star. I contemplated swiping right only. Excitement (and an unusual spontaneity) got the best of me and I settled for a super-like. Much to my relief, he started the conversation.

From there we spoke on and off for the better part of the next two months that followed- sometimes not talking for ten days at a time and sometimes talking across four or five days consecutively. I’m not sure when but at some point, I fell for him- hard.

Which brings me to why I’m writing this post nearly two months on from the last time we spoke. One of the last messages he sent me said: “Don’t worry, nothing between the way we talk is going to change”. I guess that wasn’t his truth. Everything changed- so much so that we haven’t said a word to each other since. But maybe that’s what moving to another hemisphere and country would do to a person. That’s my full truth.

I’ve met more new people (and easy-on-the-eye-men) in the last three weeks than I’ve met in the last two years of my life; But, somehow, my mind still finds its way back to ‘E’.

I’ve thought about reaching out but we live in different countries and I doubt he could ever love a city more than he loves Athens (…not that I’m over-thinking things and planning ahead or anything).

The crazy thing is that we never even met. He wanted to meet at several points whilst talking- twice, I think. But, reality shut me down. I knew I was moving to London which means that someone’s heart was bound to be broken eventually. I guess my plan failed, because, inevitably, I know of one broken heart. I can’t really talk about the other. Also, I was staying with my ultra conservative and traditional yiayia, my grandmother, who wasn't exactly going to let me get on a bus and go meet a stranger in the middle of Athens. 

So, you may be asking: ‘Steph, what do you do in this situation?’. Well, you clench your fists and fight the urge to run out of bed in the middle of the night to send a text. If that doesn’t work, you delete Instagram and hope that you don’t re-activate your account (I’m being so particular because we followed each other on Instagram after re-matching on Tinder).

If I’m one hundred percent open and honest here then I’ll admit that I’m hoping that in two months from now- or even two years- he’ll remember a time where a text made him smile or he’ll remember that for the summer of 2017 he spoke to a somewhat-shy-yet-somehow-extraverted South African-Greek and want to talk to her again. However, I’m also hoping that I could get a message and feel nothing but excitement at seeing an old friend re-appear again- and nothing more.

But for now, at quarter to midnight, with only the light from my laptop screen and keyboard breaking the darkness of a middle of October’s night, I will type this post- avoid re-installing Instagram- and open my heart to you.

I once wrote a post called 8 Full Proof Ways to Get Over Any Guy. I'm currently in stage 4, in case you were wondering.

I may wake up tomorrow morning and be okay. I may wake up in one week and be fine. I may wake up one month from now and go a full day without thinking about ‘E’, but for now, for now, I’m going to miss him- and type this ode to summer instead.

Have you ever tried online dating? How did it work out for you?

Till next time-

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  1. I dated a guy I met on Hinge. We talked for about 2-3 months and went on 2 dates. And that's the end of that story. I hope you get over E soon. It may take a while but I hope it's fast for you. It's no fun!

    Effortlessly Sophisticated

    1. I haven't heard of Hinge...How is it different from Tinder?
      It really isn't fun- however, I already feel better than when I posted this.

      Thanks Jennifer!

  2. Aww you're story gave me all kind of feels! Honestly if this was some kind of romance novel you would both meet up in like 10 years and fall or still be madly in love with each other ^_^.
    I've never tried online dating, but then I've never tried in real life dating either. However there is a part of me that is curious about it and wonders if maybe I should try something like Tinder, but then a part of me stops myself by thinking that no-one would actually want to talk to me >-<.
    And though it seems hard getting over E, I'm sure there are some pretty good guys here in England for you hehe xx

    Sophie's Spot

    1. Hahah, can you imagine that I post 'My Tinder Soulmate (Part 3)' in 10 years time! Haha.

      Thanks for your lovely comment, Soph! I think you should give online dating a try ;)
      I'm already more over 'E' than when I wrote this post though- the guys in England have helped a lot with that!

  3. What a dramatic story. I guess you're never going to forget about him for the rest of your life xD
    I agree with Sophie- this does sound like a perfect plot for a romance novel!


    1. Haha, dramatic indeed!
      Maybe I should get writing...

      Thanks K!

  4. It's so amazing to see when bloggers open up and tell stories from their own lives. I've never experienced anything like this, but I hope you get over E soon :)

    1. I love sharing personal stories! I find them to be the ones that come easiest!

      Thanks Jolly!

  5. I wish I could give you a hug! Thank you for sharing this story with all of us. Some of my favorite posts of yours are the ones where you tell a personal story because you make me feel all the things you're feeling. You're a great writer!

    Sending you hugs from LA!



      That means a lot Bobbi. My favourite posts to write also happen to be the personal anecdote ones. The funny thing is that I have to be in a very particular mood to write those stories- which unfortunately isn't a mood that I'm in often.

      Thanks Bobbi!!!

  6. I actually met my soulmate on tinder in January and we've been together ever since, seeing each other nearly everyday. I can't quite believe it happened tbh! I hope you manage to get over E and find someone else you truly connect with when you're ready❤ This is a very well written post too☺️

    1. EEK!
      I'm so glad your Tinder experience was such a positive one!
      this makes me think that maybe things online really do work out. You were lucky!

      As each day passes, things get easier in terms of E!

      Thank youuu, Alys!

  7. Hi! Sorry to hear you're having a tough time getting over E, but don't be discouraged from online dating. I met my boyfriend on OkCupid around a year and a half ago. We're now living together, and couldn't be happier. Hope you get your happy ending soon! x

    1. I've heard so many wonderful stories of people meeting online. It sounds like you found your happy ending. I'm happy to report that since I wrote this post I did indeed get over E, but got my heart broke by someone else that I met offline this time. Oh well, I guess you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince.


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