10 October 2017

19 Things I Haven't Learnt At 19

As of this moment in time, I am officially 19 years old. We recently celebrated another birthday on this blog, but last Thursday, it was mine. I remember getting really excited nine years ago when I became 10 because I was finally 'double digits'. Seven-years-ago, when I was 12, I stopped celebrating my halves, like '12-and-a-half'. I miss those days. Maybe in six months time, I'll do a post about being '19-and-a-half' but for now, for today I'm just 19.
 I'm not sure what it is about completing another of life's cycles but somehow it always calls for reflection. In my 19 years there has been a lot that I have done, and more that I haven't done.

I've learnt many lessons and forgotten many things;
I've learnt how to use a spoon, I've learnt to tie my hair into a pony-tail and swirl it into a sometimes-delicate and sometimes-not-so-delicate bun. I've learnt how to apply lip-gloss and lipsticks and how to crawl through mud and glide through the water. I've learnt how to ride a bicycle and drive a car.
I've learnt how to love and how to mend my broken heart. I've learnt how to lose and I've learnt how to win.

Whilst writing the list below, I've come to see how bloody difficult it is to write a list of things I haven't learnt. It's much easier to make a list about things I've learnt- trust me. I have no doubt I'll get to 50 years old, look back at this post and laugh and my naivety for thinking that I've learnt all that the world has to teach me. I guess I just don't know what I don't know and what I'm yet to learn.
I'm 19 years down, but I like to think that I have many more years to go; So, with that in mind, I'm going to tell you what 19 years of life hasn't taught me, in hopes that the rest of the years that follow will make up for it. 

1. How to cook a proper meal. The student life that I'm currently living has meant that I've seriously upped my cooking game- but not so seriously that I can cook a non-student type meal.

2. To make ammends with the past. I think I have a long way to go with not regretting things in my past. When I say this, I'm not talking about anything serious, just the little things that my mind tends to drift back to at 11 PM on a Monday night when I can't bring myself to sleep.

3. How to talk to good-looking guys. I get major anxiety when talking to good-looking boys. I have no problem talking to boys, but as soon as I relize I'm attracted to them, it's a different story.

4. How to stay up past 3 AM. I haven't mastered this one; I'm doubting whether I've ever stayed up past 03:30. I've definitely been up at 4AM, but that hasn't been continuously through the night. I should try and change that.

5. To be more open-minded about music genres. I know what music I like and I tend to stick to it- stick firmly to it. I like pop music and country  music. I appreciate other art forms, but I stick to what I like in this regard.

6. To dance like no one is watching. Every time I dance (which isn't as often as you may be imagining) I'm self-conscious.

7. To have the confidence to answer questions in class. I would have very little problem with standing in front of my class and giving a speech, but for the life of me I get too scared and filled with anxiety when answering a question in class.

8. To make the perfect cup of tea.  I once wrote this post, but I don't think I've quite perfected it yet.

9. To be very exprienced with boys. As we've established about me, I have very little experience with the opposite gender. I haven't even hit a base...unless you count hand-holding as half a base?

10. How to say no to chocolate and cake (and chocolate cake). I don't think I'm alone when it comes to this one; I can't say no to cake or chocolate, not that I'm complaining. This is one thing I think I'm okay with never learning.

11. To like Snapchat and Instagram. I really did try with Instagram -I promise. We just don't click. I think I had Snapchat for a full week before I went 'off with its head'.

12. How not to be a twin. Now and again someone will ask me whether I like being a twin. I don't really know a life any different...and I don't think I'd want to either!

13. Be comfortable in a club. It's probably due to the lack of alcohol in my system...but I'm just not comfortable in  club environement. Some people take like a duck to water in clubs...I take like a young bird- I don't.

14. To be attached to my phone. I'm very happy to say that this millenial has no problem separating from her phone- no problem at all.

15. To challenge myself. Generally, I like to stay in my comfort zone. I don't like to do things that scare me although this is something that I'd like to work on over the next 19 years.

16. To watch anything other than rom-coms. I don't wander out of the rom-com genre hardly ever. This aligns well with the above point of challenging myself.

17. To be okay with being late. I get the worst anxiety if I know I'm even 1 minute late to a class. I just can't be late, it isn't in me. However,sometimes things go wrong and time is just against you. In those cases, I'd like to have less anxiety and just be more at ease about it.

18. To take good photographs. This is something that I'm increasingly working on and have noted as a place where I have the potential to improve. The photographs on this blog, even up until the start of the year are of poor quality compared to the photographs that I put up on the blog now. I still have a way to go, and wouldn't consider myself 'good' but I held my first DSLR camera last week, so I'm trying.

19. How to make my bed properly. Don't get me wrong, I know that there's an undersheet, then a sheet, then a duvet inside a duvet case, and possible a throw or a blanket, it's just that every time I make my bed, it comes out looking like someone just slept in it- which doesn't exactly match the image I have in my head of what a freshly made bed should look like.

What have you not learnt by your age?

Till next time-



  1. I'm not okay with being late!! Happy Birthday Steph!!

    Effortlessly Sophisticated

  2. I had NO idea you were a twin! I definitely had no idea how to cook non-student meals when I was nineteen and now four years on cooking is one of my main passions, so it's definitely not too late.

    Steph - www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

  3. happy birthday! this is such a creative post idea, it was a joy to read <3

  4. 'How to talk to good-looking guys' This made me giggle, though honestly I'm still in the same boat, as well as not making it to any base ^_^. And how do people stay up past 3pm, I'm in the land of dream by midnight but that's pushing it. I really did enjoy reading this post, made me giggle as well as realising I've still got a lot to learn that I hadn't even thought about xx

    Sophie's Spot


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