5 September 2017

Keeping My University A Secret

There is one aspect about this blog that I hope to never have to compromise one- it’s honesty. This blog is my safe space- my bridge to hide under when it rains. My only hope is that I never do anything to negatively affect the honesty that I write with and the trust that I like to think you have in me.
Up until this point I have been incredibly open with you about every aspect of my life- and you have welcomed me in with a cup of tea and nothing but positivity. For that to continue I need to ask one thing of you: please forgive me if I do not tell you what university I go to, in London. Several people have already asked me which prompted me to write this post.

I’m not going to lie- the internet can be a scary place and with blogging depending largely on the interaction with people that I’ve never met, I have to be careful. Unfortunately, not everyone in the world has good intentions (but I’m also from South Africa which means I have an unhealthy amount of ‘built-in’ paranoia).

In coming days, I will reveal what course I will be studying (because I figure that aspect is a lot more difficult to hide than university but also an aspect that I don’t want to hide). I like to think my course is exciting and hope to share what I learn with you in the near future. However, as you may be aware, I blog ‘semi-anonymously’ (you can read more about that here). As I mentioned in a post recently, blogging is my dirty little secret. If I revealed what university I go to, and told you what course I was one, my mystique and my cloak of comfort, in my mind, is more likely to diminish into dust- which means so does my honesty.  

I like that you and I are perfect strangers. I like that I let you into my life and you occasionally let me enter yours. But for me to maintain the honesty that I think is the defining feature of this blog, I need to draw a line in the virtual sand of the internet and keep this one piece of information to myself. I hope you understand and respect my decision.

I want nothing more than to share every single London escapade that I get up to with you- from burning my first meal (which I’m 99% sure I will do), meeting my flat mates in halls and more than likely having another probably-regrettable-but-maybe-lovely Tinder-experience (but this time with a British boy).

Many people have reached out to me offering words of encouragement and helpful anecdotes ahead of my move across the equator, from South Africa to London. I am so grateful for that and value each person willing to help me (because, naturally, I’m scared…but I already mentioned that). I really believe that I am in the middle of the biggest ‘bear-hug’ on the internet. Any advice or words of wisdom that you can pass on I will gladly take with arms stretched out and open.

I have no idea if this decision will be a permanent one. As time goes on, things may change: Who knows, maybe by the end of the year you’ll know my full name and my blood type! But for now, the uni I’m attending will be my secret.

On the off chance that someone reading this happens to see my face prancing about at university, please do come over and say ‘hello’. The uni we attend can be our little secret!

I can’t believe that this is the month. September. It’s finally rolled around (and much slower than I ever thought imaginable, to be honest). It’s strange to think that the culmination of more than 12 years of schooling and way more exam timetables than I’d like to remember has led to Steph going to uni!

I doubt that this will be the last post that I write from South Africa…but that moment will soon come.

Till next time-

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  1. I don't blame you for not telling people!

    Effortlessly Sophisticated

  2. I think it is totally normal not to tell in which university you go to ! However I hope to read post about London !

    1. You're definitely going to hear all about London!

      Thanks for the comment!

  3. The internet can be a very scary place and I fully support your decision to refrain any personal information. I can also be bit paranoid about that even though we seem to be entering an age where your whole life is also documented on the internet. For instance that snapchat update where people can see your exact position 0 that is extremely creepy and a total invasion of privacy.
    I hope you are keeping well and I wish you the best of luck in college at whatever University you are in! ^_^ x

    (P.S long time no see, and I thoroughly enjoyed reading this post. It has been so long since I've looked at a blog and I've missed it very much)

    1. It is like that isn't it? People put everything and anything out there these days.
      I don't have Snapchat but I've heard about that update! THAT IS VERY CREEPY! I wouldn't like people knowing where I am 24/7.

      Thank you so much, M!

      I'm so glad you're back. I've missed your positive presence. WELCOME BACK!

  4. Your comfort and safety is the most important thing! You don't need to tell us but if you feel like opening up, then I think that most of us won't be flying to London to stalk you (at least I won't...or I might ya never know!) xx Nikita

    BLOG//Jasmine Loves

    1. Hahah! I like to think that most people won't fly all the way to London to stalk me- I don't imagine many would want to!

      Hahah, you're more than welcome to stalk me, N! You're more like a friend than a stranger.

      Thanks N!

  5. you are doing right, you can choose the limit of the things you want to share!
    I'm having a similar feeling because I'm moving too (I finally have a shared flat now!), but this time I don't feel like sharing at my social networks where I will live now or why, I think now people expose too much their lives and I think that "my followers" (not just people I met from internet, also people I know in person) can live without knowing this, (lately I'm very tired to post random stuff about my life! as you see, I'm taking a long pause from posting! But it's another story hahaha) also the people who is important for my already knows it, so there's no need to be "shouting" this. And as you say, for security reasons! Now is a time to start in a new place and keeping a secret blog is a hard job.
    Btw, I'm very curious to know what are you going to study there, and a little bit (what you want to share) about how is living there, the places you visit...

    Good luck with your new studies!

    1. Thanks so much for understanding, C!
      Yay! Congrats on moving into your flat! You have the right not to share where you're living. People do tend to over-share these days.

      YES! I will be sharing EVERYTHING ELSE about my London adventures. I'll show you where I eat, sleep and play! I'm so excited to share it with you!

      Thank you so much for your good wishes, C!

  6. I'm totally the same! Though I've told a few of the friends I made through blogging, I haven't announced to the world where I'm going to uni and I don't think I will do, the course though, let's see what the future holds.
    I honestly can't believe it's September already, good luck to us both ^_^ x

    Sophie's Spot

    1. Yeah, there are a few of my blogging friends that I wouldn't mind telling.

      Good luck to you too, Sophie! It's crazy that September has rolled around so quickly! I wish you all the best at uni!

  7. There is nothing wrong with keeping the uni you're attending a secret, it's completely up to you to decide what you want to share with your readers - in the end your blog is your little corner on the internet! :) I used to be the same and when I was still living in Germany I never mentioned where I was living and turned off the location on Twitter (it's not a big city). I don't know how that has happened but since I moved to London I've been a lot more open - maybe it's because KCL has like 26,000 students or because people here are more open about a lot of things. Anyway, I'm sure you'll love studying in London, it is an amazing city for sure. The only piece of advice I can give you is to join societies and go to events. Oh and try not to stress yourself too much, uni can seem overwhelming and a bit daunting in the beginning but things get easier once you get used to it and I'm actually loving it now xx


    1. Thank you so much for re-assuring me, comforting me and for those key pieces of advice.
      I understand turning off your location in a small city, but in London, ones chances of being discovered are a little less.

      I'm already really enjoying ambling around (which includes getting lost). I'll try join all the societies that interest me and attend events to meet more people! It does seem daunting now, but as you said, I'm sure as time passes I'll ease into it!

      Thank you, Mira!

  8. I definitely agree with your choice to keep your university private. It is your own privacy!!

    I am a new reader but am in love with your blog. Very excited to read about your adventures and experiences in London.

    Nat ◇ dignifiable

    1. Hi Natalie,

      Welcome to my blog! I'm glad to hear that you like it!
      I can't wait to share all my London shenanigans with you!

  9. I can totally understand why you want to keep it private. I never really cared about sharing the name of my college, because it had like five different locations in Rotterdam and the chance of some weirdo blog stalker picking the right one would've been very small. Same goes for the university I'll be attending next year, but if you move to a new city where so many bloggers live and where blogging is such a huge thing I'd be very careful too.

    x Envy
    Lost in Translation

    1. London is a MASSIVE blogging hub which is great. I love that! My uni has several campuses, but just for my piece of mind I went with secrecy.

      I can't wait to read about your next uni adventures!

  10. I'd be surprised if readers gave you a hard time for not sharing your uni because that's totally your right to share or not, and I also don't see how knowing where you went to school would benefit any of your readers in any way. I graduated last year and I still don't share my university's name on any of my post (aside from one picture of my degree). If I was still in school, I wouldn't feel comfortable sharing my university name either.

    1. Someone actually did...believe it or not. Someone went at me on Twitter about it.
      i don't think it would benefit people to know that information either.

      I'm glad you relate and feel the same way, Claire!

  11. It's up to you what/when you share things about your life. It's your blog and you and only you can decide what you write about and I absolutely can't wait to read about what you get up to!

    Em xo

    1. Thanks Em!
      I really can't wait to share it all!

      EEK! I'm so excited!

  12. Hi Steph! Don't worry about other people judging you, they can think whatever they like to. I also like to keep my blog as a space of freedom and my spot at the Internet where I can be whoever I want to, although I know I have many relatives, friends or classmates checking it, but I think it's OK.

    I'll be waiting for your coming posts!


    1. Hey Amanda,

      If blogging openly doesn't stop your freedom of expression then I think that's wonderful! It's great that you have the best of both world!

      Thanks for the lovely comment.


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