7 January 2016

First Date

In my previous blog post I said my aim of this year was to take chances. 365 of them to be exact. We're not even ten days into the New Year and I'm already on chance two.

Last night I went on my first date-ever, with Wedding Wonder. The clean-slate I was aiming to end 2015 off  lead to us meeting up.

After thinking up EVERY possible scenario and getting countless pep-talks from my girls, me and my clammy hands went off to meet Wedding Wonder. We met at a corner restaurant of a place that is like a town within a town. The place was done up with Christmas lights that hadn't been taken down yet, and the sky was splashed in tones of orange and yellow as the sun set signifying the end of another day. Although the sun was setting, for me it was like a new beginning.

I'm what one would call a 'senior' in high school and a late-bloomer, and this folks was my first 'date'. Many at this point in their lives have had countless 'tongue-touching' experience and a copious number of dates. I've had neither. I've watched EVERY possible Rom-Com out there (and I don's use the term 'every' lightly either) and now, it was my time to go out there, to live my real-life Rom-Com.

The date with Wedding Wonder turned out to be...well... okay but ironically, not wonderful. Maybe this is the Rom Coms talking, but there was no spark. Are you supposed to feel a spark after a first date? Am I over-thinking this? What was your first date like?

To any girls reading this: The first date isn't actually that bad. I found I was nervous at the start and then as the night progressed, things got easier. Just enjoy it. If you find that you didn't click, well then maybe the person who said you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince (or princess) might have had a point and plus, if it goes REALLY badly and provided you don't live in a small town, you'll never have to see your 'disaster date' again.

If you're a late-bloomer, like me, and haven't done all the things your peers have done- whether it be on the sporting front, in the dating domain or academically, it's okay. It bothered me for a long time too. Then I remembered that there are others like me out there and I shouldn't be in a hurry to grow up.

I stuck to my word of taking chances though.

Till next time-
Steph

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4 January 2016

New Year New Me... NOT!


The 31st of December marks the end of the year for most people. Yes, not all as you may assume- there's something called a Julian calendar and then a Gregorian calendar. I feel compelled to write a post to end off the year- a full stop at the end of a sentence if you will. So here I am, crossing my I's and dotting my T's.

I love the idea of a new beginning or a fresh start. I think many do. The New Year always comes with New Year’s resolutions, new hopes and dreams as well as new obstacles or hills. I promise this post will not be about any of those. However, I do find a certain importance in looking back to move forward, like many design and art movements did. Important lessons can be found when we look backwards although with full intention of moving forward. I'm not going to bore you with my reflections. I'll do that offline but I do want to tell you some things:

Firstly, start 2016 on a clean-ish slate. You owe it to yourself to forgive those who may have wronged you and to move on. Get some stain-remover and wipe away negative people from your life. I promise it will make a world of a difference. It has to me, recently.

Secondly, you need to trust yourself. Trust the person you are now and the person you are aspiring to be. You are the person you spend most of your time with and talk to 24/7. Have some faith in yourself. You are capable of achieving some pretty incredible things.

Lastly, have fun. We get so wound up in the year about things which at the end don't seem to matter. I'm not saying don't stress, but don't stress the small stuff which seems big at the time... if that makes sense. 

I don't promise in the New Year to gym more or become the kindest person ever who promises to clean my room every day and get up before the sun (although these would all be very nice)!

My hope for the next 365 days is that I simply take 365 chances.

Do you have any hopes for 2016, or any challenges you'd like to overcome in the New Year?

Till next time-

Steph

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