29 August 2015

Having A Down Day?

"The pool virtually overflowed into the ocean."
Let me start off with a story- I mean, who doesn't like a story? I was recently in Greece, on the small yet very beautiful 'island' of Porto Cheli (after thinking this place was an island for the past 9 years, it turns out it is not. It is part of main land Greece) but anyways, back to the story.
I was staying with family who just so happened to live in in the most incredible villa seated right upon the sea. The pool virtually overflowed into the ocean. On the last day of my time there we found out that a mutual friend of my cousins' had volunteeringly taken his last breath the night before. He was 22 years old. My one cousin, in shock and disbelief, said "but his Instagram showed a perfectly happy, full-of-life person" and that comment, folks, brings me to the reason for writing this post and in a broader spectrum, this blog.

Most of us live by a double standard. We are one person in real life and another person online- and with the ability to add filters, 'plastic surgery' apps and a greed for likes and followers why wouldn't we. Don't get me wrong, there are lots of benefits in social media- LOTS! Take this very blog post for example. You, reading this, proves my point. Social media is extremely powerful. Back to my point about double standards; we edit ourselves to be thinner, we add filters to be darker, we change the brightness and add contrast to create an image far from reality- me included. I do it too.

Let me ask you a question: Should the 22 year old boy's suicide have come as a surprise? If we allowed our Facebook friends and Twitter followers to share their down days and the days when they woke up and just wanted a nice hot chocolate and a big bear hug, would that suicide have seemed less surprising?

I want to try something for the next 150 days (just because 100 felt too short and 200 too long). I will post my 'down days' on here for people to see. The days when I wake up and things just do not go my way, the moments when I have the biggest fight with my sister and go to bed crying or the disappointment of looking in the mirror and not being happy with the body I have.

Social media has made us highlight the good moments and cast aside the bad, when in reality people have a lot more 'down days' than meet the 'social media eye'. It just becomes difficult when we're only seeing the good and we begin to believe that there is no bad. So, for the next 150 days, here's my bad.

Through these posts, I hope to show people that we're not alone. We all have 'dem down days.

Till next time-




  1. WOW.This is really inspiring and my heart goes out to you.xxx

    1. Thanks Sophie!

      I was sad for my cousin, however, it led to the creation of this space on the internet, which I am so incredibly grateful for!

  2. omg I love this writing xxxx all of it within the blog xxx I am really glad I found you xxxx

    1. Thank you Kim! That's such a lovely comment!


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